Victimize

Photo c/o Jimmy

Jimmy discovered Vista Hermosa Park next to our house while exploring our neighborhood during his quest for inspiration.  A park complete with manicured grass, fountain and small amphitheater.

The other day Jimmy and I chatted about victimizing oneself for sake of attention and pity from others.  I told Jimmy a story in which he gave a neutral reaction.  "I'm assuming by your response that you've heard worse," I told Jimmy.  He confirmed my theory.

My life isn't hard.  I haven't experienced hardship, but I find myself in a couple of instances where I point out how much life sucks... when it really doesn't.  "Well, you learned from it. You grew from it.  I'm not going to feel bad for you."  Jimmy responded something along those lines.  After all, I was telling a story about something that happened years ago.  I did not need consoling, I was telling the story for the 'wow' response. He continued to say that we have a choice, we have more control than we think we do and there is no reason to make ourselves the victim when the situation helped us develop as a person.  And besides, why do you want people to feel bad for you.  Why do you want people to see how weak you are and how you weren't able to control the outcome of the situation.

Life doesn't suck.  Just do it.

That's something I usually remind myself.  I hope it allows me to be drama-free as possible and positive.  I hope never to victimize myself.  I am in control of my life... and hope to make the right choices.