A Game

My friend asked me for dating advice. I KNOW, RIGHT?! Irony ALL over the table!

And I went on about "the Game."
After you get that number at Dragon... and after you text message, add their facebook and look at all their ugly tagged pictures, chat on AIM.. you have... a meal together.

A Date usually includes a meal. Why? Because that's when you get to know the person outside of instant messages: "what did you do last night." You actually learn about their ambitions, their favorites, their pet peeves... and from what they are saying... you figure out if you are compatible/interested or not. <- An epiphany. (I "know" a fair number of people, but I dont "know them either.)

Lunch is safe... because it's still friendly

Dinner is serious... at least compared to Lunch, whatchu gonna do after, HMM!?

It IS a game. You have to read their body language, how much silence is there? are you awkward. Eye contact? Did that bitch pay for you??

"It's okay.. I got this." Means... they're interested
"I got this time, you can get next" means they're interested in seeing you again... AS FRIENDS!
YAY! New best friend, how cute. Or they believe in a 50/50 dating experience. Which is cool until people start "counting." You know what I'm talkin' about.

Not interested? Then drop those hints. "Aww, youre a good friend." Okay, i guess thats like a ton of bricks. But INSISTING that you split the bill.. yeah, that's pretty good. Also look like you have something else to do. ... or look constipated, that'd work too.

...and if the boy asks you to come over. DO it...

And if the boy slips in a DVD to watch in his bedroom... then yeah, HE wants to fuck.

...please MAKE OUT... that's good.

BUT DONT HAVE SEX! OMG! Hold OFF! I know it's hard you horny HOMO's but it's worth it to make the boy squirm. (Okay, this must be the sadistic tease in me coming out)

In MY opinion, sex on the first date is bad bad bad. Why? Because, you're obviously just interested in their body and IF a relationship DOES come out of it.. then it's based on physical pleasure and LIES!

Hahaha. I guess, I'm a prude. But... don't put out on a first date.
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Hmmm. I'm going to test this theory and ask Mr.GoodDancer out to Lunch. I'll tell you how it goes.

HAHA.

And what about Mr.HighEnergyMusic? I actually talked to him last night for a long time about dating in general. I'm still interested... but "GOOD FRIEND" hints keep popping up in our convos... or rather "GOOD FRIEND" brick walls keep appearing when that's what he keeps calling me. Blah to that.

I know, I'm full of BS.

Blinktwice4y at Dragon

God, I was so desperate for a ride last night because Mario Kart Love Song Guy, AKA, Sam/Blinktwice4y was performing for his first time in front of a large audience at DRAGON!
Used my Vietnamese/Gay magic and got some rides worked out!

Sam was so good, so cute.. so straight and bounced immediately after. :) But at least I got a photo with this youtube celebrity.


I spent the rest of the night whoring out my glasses... also whoring out myself as I danced with some old and new faces. How fun.









Poor Carl, his car was victim of a publicity blitz.

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I am good at mortifying people...

Friend 1 was driving up from Fremont by himself. Friend 2 needed a ride back to Fremont after Dragon. I told Friend 1 that I had a surprise for him because Friend 2 went to his High school.

Friend 2 was drunk, Friend 1 was unhappy and awkward because they haven't spoken in years.

Friend 2 walked in a circle so that he wouldn't throw up in Friend 1's car. I bounced before cleaning my mess.

Dang. I'm terrible
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Thoughts on Dating
I've been having a lot of interesting conversations with the boys about dating. What does it even MEAN to be dating? Especially in this gay gay Asian American gay gay world.

And what does it MEAN when ONE person says they are dating and the other person says.. "WTF!?! NO!?!"
And what does it MEAN to say, "I like him... but he's the opposite of what I'm attracted to"
And what does it MEAN to make out at Dragon, but then say to each other "I'm not interested in a relationship...but let's take it slow... whatever that MEANS"
And what does it MEAN to sleep with the boy, call the boy everyday after work, cuddle... but refuse to say... "I love you."
And what does it MEAN to brush off your friends, tell them nothing, act cold and distant... but that's okay because you have love in your life? I know this one.. it's called bull shit.
And what does it MEAN to get back together again? God, why!?
And what does it MEAN to date a friend? is that possible? how about be friends right after?
And what does it MEAN to think someone is HOT... but immediately place them in the friendzone?

Hmm

Joe and I agree, it's getting Cold and the gays are getting lonely. PPL be doing CRAZY things.

"I figured you out Chris... you're all talk... and dance, that's it," Damien is right. That's all I do, talk... and dance... because it's safe.

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I met a boy, that dances really hot. I like it (I found his rhythm sexy). And another boy that makes dancing to high energy music fun (we were the only ones on the floor! :D)... maybe I should give them/myself "a chance"... more than just dancing and talking?! ....like I said, people be doing some crazy shiiit.

Plan C

I'm a bit behind in blogging. I don't know where my mind has been lately. I think I left it in Vietnam. But, everyone should start their day off with some DEEP FRIED OREOS!

(gosh, there is no shame.. why not call it... Crispy-Os... ? I guess, Americans don't care anymore)
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Last Friday... the boys called me up at 7:30 PM

"uhh... so the birthday party we were going to go to... yeah, they're going to a straight club... and yeah.. we didn't want to do that... so WE'RE GOING TO HANG OUT WITH YOU!!!!"

Great, I love to be their plan C... but plan C(hristopher) is always the best plan!



Starting with some Indian Food at Chaat Cafe. Tiki Masala Rolls were a hit with Joe... mmm! We had our fill and our tummies tried very hard to adjust to the foreign spices! Szeto and I wanted to be polite so we forced ourselves to fart before entering Joe's new car!



After watching Xmen3 and recovering, we ended up at Hunter's coincidentally all wearing "FUN=T's!" with cool designs! YAY! Yeah, this was the night I had no game. But apparently Joe did.. heeeeyyyy!!!!! We were blessed to see more downes enter the club toward the end of the night!

When the terrible DJ left, the music got better! Because the mainstream songs weren't being mutliated into some high energy stereotype bull shit. (=X . wow, I'm so mean.) So I danced the night away and I was thrilled that I was only 15 minutes away vs. 1 hour away from home.



And.. then to Denny's ... so I'm quickly gaining my tummy back. Fucking American food. Fucking American Life style in general... sigh. Eat Drink Dance Eat.... eat eat eat... blah. AT least it's good FOOD, yah know wha I sayin'!

Just..... WAIT

On Tuesday the boys headed to see Lady Gaga in the City.

Short story shorter, we bounced before she came (at 12:45am) because everyone was on work-tomorrow mode and did not enjoy being shoved around by fat sweaty underage wanna be hipsters.

Particularly this guy who we dubbed, the Joker, who was drunk off his ass and was sweating through his large purple blazer.

These fat bitches were so rude... everyone was pushing, but my boys stood their ground. "ELBOWS UP!" Ooo and JoeV was going to kick some girl's ASS, he was SO mad!

The music was fantastic. I was expecting a concert hall, what I got was.. a large dance floor! TWO songs that everyone knows the lyrics to:

Since You've Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson and
Otherside by The Red Hot Chili Peppers... sort of

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On Wednesday was my brother's 17th birthday at Red Lobster.. which is strange because he doesn't like sea food.

He was also tired.


Aww... poor waiters who were forced to sing to us... and my dad to photograph them

I bite off my brother's style:

Whad Up G?!

GIRLS ARE GROSS!

I stole this from CaKaLusa!


I bet they're from San Jose.
Sorry if I got you in trouble at work... but all I gots to say is... "GURRRRRRL!"

Streaming Flow of Consciousness

Do I come off as a flirt?

I believe that I used to, not anymore. It's true, I am affectionate to those I'm comfortable with. And yes, I am comfortable with A LOT of people.
Hmmm.

"Well... I come off as a BITCH!" JoeV declared shamelessly.

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To me, I like proving people wrong. Think what you want and I'll do something unexpected.. but again, I'm pretty predictable.

Damien rebutted, "but what people perceive about you is important... because it sticks with them.. it takes time to 'prove them wrong.'"

And I began to get self conscious. So... how do I come off?- Easy? Not special? Predictable... TOO honest? There is no mystery to Letopho.

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My flirtatious past has come to bite me in the butt. "Oh Chris, it's all clear to me now.. you're just ONE BIG FLIRT." Said this boy that I'm starting to re-like subtlety.

I wanted to argue, "no... I really did have feelings for you [last year]..." but for some reason I just let him believe that I really was just playing around. Then I found some entries.. and "sort of like" was all that I could describe him as...

Really, where ARE my feelings? What DOES my body want?

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I vented to Neil. He advised me: "You need to listen to your body. Even though 'he' has everything you think you want... if your body says no then you have to listen.

It's okay to discriminate." But, what about "giving people a chance?"

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Is that how it works? I guess, you don't expect to just fall hard for someone immediately. I guess that's what going on a date is for.

You see potential... you see where it goes.

Do you like what you see? or more importantly, does your 'body' like what they see?

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What about all these prerequisites?- "I like Asian guys" "I like tall boys" "I like guys with a successful career" "I like boys who look like cats."

I think these attributes are mere filters for the sea of strangers... but in actuality, you can fall in love with just ANYONE.

Even your friends.. if you give them that Chance. So maybe it IS possible get out of the friend zone... even though it seems like death to be placed there.

And maybe I should have given the boy that I "sort of like" a chance. But it seems to me like the boy ironically put chains on me while I sit in HIS friend zone.

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I'm starting to realize how good it feels to "be on the same page" as someone... withOUT having to say it. For instance, you know you're just friends so you're affectionate without question. You know you are fuck buddies, so you FUCK without question. You know you're drunk so you make out with 5 boys at Dragon without question.

And then feelings and emotions get in the way and everything gets weird.

Maybe that's why I've been so void of emotions.

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A couple of my friends are taking it slow. There is some interest, but neither of them are interested in a relationship. It made me think about James...

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Ugh. I'm in a weird place right now when it comes to emOtions.

Height Envy

I LOVE GETTING THINGS IN THE MAIL!

I just got another giraffe shirt from www.shirt.woot.com. The shirt JV suggested! LOOOOOVE IT! I love it so much that I made a video:


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Speaking of height envy, I like boys who are taller than me so that I can tip toe when I hug them. Is that a bit gay? Yeah, STFU.