Adam4Adam (a4a) is a gay hook up site.
I have a profile on there.
Why? I don't know.... but I do get excited when I get a message, only to find that it's from a 40 year old+ bearded over weight predator in search of a twinky oriental boy to be his passive servant. *Shudders*
I found 9 of my friends on the site and I added them to my friends list as if I was on mYspace. Is that strange of me? My friends are very tasteful... and I learned a little bit more about their... penis size. Anyway... am I supposed to be discrete about this shit?
This random guy my age IMs me and we make conversation. He asks me if I wanted to hookup and I go, "um no I've never done that before off a4a.. have you?"
To this he responds, "would you believe me if I said no." Eventually he fesses up and says that he has and I inquire what's it like.
He is confused.
"Is it awkward? What do you do when you get to their house... do they offer you water?" He starts responding as if I am mocking him. "I'm serious, what's it like?"
"What do you think it's like? You've hooked up after parties... is that awkward?"
"Well, no, Im drunk and it's usually not planned... and that was a long time ago."
"Well... Im not that open about my sex life" I thought this was an ironic response as he was chatting with someone he met off a hook up site and SEX is the expected hot topic.
I had so many questions: What if they don't look like the picture? Have you ever been scared? What was the worse thing that happened?
Hooking up with friends after a party, friends of friends after a club... or with someone new after a couple of dates is not alien to me. Meeting up with internet strangers for coffee or a burger in a safe public space is also no horror story. But hooking up off the internet, cutting out the "BS" of dating, meeting and greeting, using the lines: "so do you wanna hook up? when do you want to meet up?" That's like asking me to define football terms. OMG. How risky... and to the point!! You have to be really brave or really trusting to do this.
But I guess it's like making out/rubbing up at the clubs right? As long as it's dark enough and you hide before the ugly lights turn on in which your friends judge you and you judge yourself. You're okay because you got your immediate gratification. Gays are so impatient and unregretful.
Am I a prude because I'd rather have tea and coffee with you before I have tea and coffee your penis?
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Hooking Up on Adam4Adam
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well you're better than that, don't stoop to that level. you'll be thankful in the long run.
No, I don't think it is weird of you to have tea and coffee before you jump in the sack. You are a people person therefore you want to meet new people, you just don't want to hook up with them. That is your belief and you should never let others change that. Be you!
hmm..the penis size of my friends...that would be too much information for me, i think...
i definitely think you should do what feels right for you. but then again don't knock something you haven't tried! lol
The only reason I'd say it's weird to have tea and coffee is because I don't usually drink both. It's either or.
Maybe coffee and a scone. Or tea and a crumpet.
But you're totally right, some of us don't like the hanky panky too fast. It makes it unemotional and... bleh, for lack of better words.
no you're not a prude---that just makes you a normal ass human being.
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