Two years ago I wrote about being surrounded by gay couples.
It was an optimistic post that declared that gay long term relationships actually exists and that I have something to look forward to in the long run. Two years later a 3rd of those couples that I mentioned in that post has broken up. What's odd is that they all broke up at the same time ringing in 2015 painfully awkward, yet they all seemed to be reprogrammed to start new projects that are focused on self accomplishments.
Is there an expiration date? Is there something in the air?
3 month mark - Superficial Reasons
6 month mark - Substantial Reasons
3 year mark - Start Over. New Chapter. Refocus.
6 year mark - Shit.
It seems like for relationships there are time markers during which couples or individuals really reevaluate. Maybe instead of celebrating anniversaries with Jimmy I should be celebrate passing these markers. But as we get older, it really is an accomplishment.
How does it make me feel?
I feel like I should be more concerned and upset that I actually am. I feel like my optimism has taken a blow and I should be protesting, but I've come to accept it as a reality. Maybe it's because gay men challenge themselves to prove that they are better than what society expects them to be. And this requires them to constantly reevaluate their achievements, relationships and life goals.
Anyway, I'm currently obsessed with Oliver Hampton from How to Get Away with Murder. When they first introduced him, I rolled my eyes because he was a stereotype Asian character: nerdy, weak, taken advantage of... but as the show progressed the writers really fleshed out the relationship. The latest scene got my emotions all tangled up. And Oliver got so cute so fast. Of course I'm following the actor Conrad Ricamora on instagram.
Take it slow Oliver... but check-in in 6 months.
I haven't watched TV in years. I refer to youtube to find programing that includes Asian Americans.
Mass media seems to only include people look and think like you, but if you walk the footsteps of an Asian you'll learn things you never knew you never knew...
Fresh of the Boat is hilarious. Let's make it through one season, that's all I ask.
Saturday, February 7, 2015
Two years ago I wrote about being surrounded by gay couples.
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
We made it back! And just in time to grab a dinner.
All the grit is being replaced with artist anal chocolate and oozey pastries.
Got to spend a few minutes with JV and Andy before heading across the new bay bridge. Not sure why this picture is so yellow!
Thursday, January 15, 2015
Tuesday, December 30, 2014
Cards in Foothill Park behind my parent's house
But I happy that I have a few minutes to spare while I wait for 24 gigs of photos and videos to transfer onto my external and traffic to die down. What should this entry be about? The 12th Annual Ignia party of course!!
The Portland girls asked to get some authentic Vietnamese food so we gave my mom a break this year and headed to Pho Ha per Sandy's suggestions. I usually get gifts for everyone from that year's travel, but I didn't have time. Instead I decided to buy everyone dinner. Everyone gave me a big thank you except Sandy. She responded, "can I have a box sir?" Which made me burst out into laughter. I gave her a giant hug.
Concept - Diana's new pretentious board game
Things - Where you write and guess who wrote what
21 - A drinking game where you assign a rule to each number
Next year we might mix it up by bringing plus ones. Or maybe we should spare our significant others the awkwardness that is our forever in high school energy.
Oh and Diana and Myself finally won a game of SPADE! YES!
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Though we had to stand, the view was great. I caught her waving to us. I wish Jimmy was there.
Afterward we enjoyed some street tacos at the carwash station near my house. It wasn't as good as our go to Taco Zone, but I'm glad I tried it.
Thanks to Andrew, I got to see White People Culture Show at the Bootleg Theatre.
White people are really interesting and exotic. I love their traditional folk dance. Though it looked like they were being possessed, I'm sure it has some culture relevance to their faith. It was pretty inspirational. Only in LA do we get an opportunity to get exposed to so many cultures.
Alysia is having a tough year. So I was happy that we got a chance to hang out at Manhattan Beach. We jumped in the water and had some ice cream. I love her.
I'm impressed with the 626 Nightmarket and their integration of youth culture. They hire popular youtube personalities and have live art by really talented people. The food... I wouldn't come for the food since the lines are terrible, but it's great energy and perfect for the community. Here's Carlo taking pastry dick.
I made it out to see Joe survive his Malibu Triathalon. I could say that I plan on accomplishing this in my life, but that's a lie. I ran into a friend who was blending from his joints. He told me that he ate it on his bike and couldn't finish it because his bike was warped. Sucks so much. I lent him my phone which he was thankful for. I wore this giraffe shirt that Joe got me a while back. Wanted to show him that I appreciated that thought even though it's 2 sizes too small for my fat torso.
Battle of the Bands industry event. Lots of good memories here in previous years. I go mainly to reminisce and run into old work friends.
Monterey Park has their own night market. But it has a more local for the smaller community vibe. The only people in attendance seem to be the ones from Monterey Park. The 626 night market includes all asians in a 20 mile radius. I enjoyed a sticky rice burger from a Thai restaurant in DTLA.
We checked out the Step and Repeat exhibit at the MOCA and took a picture at the step and repeat, but they never posted it. They only posted photos of what Jimmy calls - Try Hards. I'm glad I snagged these gems from the camera preview before they're gone forever.
Game Haus is amazing - a huge library of boardgames. $5 admission and there's no time limit. I just wish I knew how to play all the games before coming. The time it takes to read and understand the rules is such a waste. The highlight of the night was a retro game called Compatibility. Really silly, but really fun!
We went on a hike to see the Sturtevant Falls pictured above, but what we got was the California drought. This is serious guys.
Steve invited me to watch his performance in Chinatown. It was Confucius day so the nearby school had an event. Steve is really talented - composed music for some films. He picked up the pipa which is a Chinese instrument. Charles came late and missed the performance, but he got to practice his calligraphy instead.
The other night we had a jam session at 321. Jimmy on keyboard and Steve on the ukelele. We sang along and Phinn did a rap, it was sort of perfect.
September ended quietly with a game of monopoly. My body was shutting off, but I suddenly got a second wind when I started picking up property. When you make money your body wakes up apparently.