Thursday, April 2, 2015

Manbun // Top Knot

I'm at the point in my hair length where I would probably only need one month to get a good topknot.  But why? It looks ridiculous!

I stumbled on some pictures of my hair back in October when it was pretty long too.

I'm going to cut it off... but at least I tried to stay current.  Also, there's already an Asian in the office with baby pony tail.  There can only be one.

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Oh dear - they sell Man buns at H&M.  Well actually they are for women, but men can appreciate them too now.


89% extravert... oh dear.  Jimmy is INTP.... lol

Saturday, February 7, 2015

Break Up Season

Two years ago I wrote about being surrounded by gay couples.

It was an optimistic post that declared that gay long term relationships actually exists and that I have something to look forward to in the long run.  Two years later a 3rd of those couples that I mentioned in that post has broken up.  What's odd is that they all broke up at the same time ringing in 2015 painfully awkward, yet they all seemed to be reprogrammed to start new projects that are focused on self accomplishments.

Is there an expiration date?  Is there something in the air?

3 month mark - Superficial Reasons
6 month mark - Substantial Reasons
3 year mark - Start Over. New Chapter. Refocus. 
6 year mark - Shit.

It seems like for relationships there are time markers during which couples or individuals really reevaluate.  Maybe instead of celebrating anniversaries with Jimmy I should be celebrate passing these markers.  But as we get older, it really is an accomplishment.

How does it make me feel?

I feel like I should be more concerned and upset that I actually am.  I feel like my optimism has taken a blow and I should be protesting, but I've come to accept it as a reality.  Maybe it's because gay men challenge themselves to prove that they are better than what society expects them to be.  And this requires them to constantly reevaluate their achievements, relationships and life goals.

Anyway, I'm currently obsessed with Oliver Hampton from How to Get Away with Murder.  When they first introduced him, I rolled my eyes because he was a stereotype Asian character: nerdy, weak, taken advantage of... but as the show progressed the writers really fleshed out the relationship.  The latest scene got my emotions all tangled up.  And Oliver got so cute so fast. Of course I'm following the actor Conrad Ricamora on instagram.

Take it slow Oliver... but check-in in 6 months.

I haven't watched TV in years. I refer to youtube to find programing that includes Asian Americans.

Mass media seems to only include people look and think like you, but if you walk the footsteps of an Asian you'll learn things you never knew you never knew...

Fresh of the Boat is hilarious.   Let's make it through one season, that's all I ask.

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Across the Golden Gate

Back in November, Jimmy and I planned a spontaneous trip to the bay area.  My number one activity was to bike across the bridge since it was something I've never done before.  The Sports Basement was the perfect rental with free parking and exceptional prices ($15 for 3 hours!)  Remember to check Yelp! for deals.

Before actually crossing the bridge, Jimmy and I discovered the many many views of the bridge stopping for many pictures.  Though Jimmy has all of the pictures of both of us, I have some cute pictures of him to share.  What a stud.

And off we go!  Here's a shot of us on the bridge.  Remember to stay on the side reserved for bikers for max efficient cruising.  It was windy, but we were well equipped!

We made it to the other side to discover Sausalito!  It's a really cute town, but we didn't have time to really explore.  We were exhausted by the hills and were in a rush to make our return time.  The ferry back option seemed like a bit of a cluster so we decided to bolt back!  It was a physical challenge!  And the bike lanes weren't as clear on this side of the bay area.  I found myself cramping up.  It seemed like most people opted to just get a ferry ticket so that they didn't have to deal.

We made it back!  And just in time to grab a dinner.

We returned to So for their famous spicy chicken.  But I noticed it had been watered down.  The waitress proclaimed that I was the first one to notice!  "Yes, we got complaints, people even walked out because it was too spicy for them to eat!"  Well, I have to say it was more manageable and enjoyable when we weren't dying from the heat.

That evening we went to the Castro and watched our friends get messy.

The next day we explored the Mission District and Valencia street with Mony.  Interesting to see the Latino community hanging on to a thread while Valencia gentrification spills over.  The sad reality.

All the grit is being replaced with artist anal chocolate and oozey pastries.

Got to spend a few minutes with JV and Andy before heading across the new bay bridge.  Not sure why this picture is so yellow!

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Hello 2015

This is the photo that I accidentally sent my coworker with the caption, "i love you."  It was meant for Jimmy.  I was mortified.  I'm still recovering from the flu and I was feeling whiney so I sent these unattractive photos to Jimmy to entertain myself.  

For a long time I felt invincible to illness.  Defeated only to digestive problems, but I blamed that on my aging body.  In terms of not catching viruses and infections I thought I was golden and protected by emergenC.  Not so much any more.

I experienced cold sweat that drenched my shirt so much that I had to change it in the middle of the night and paranoia from parking on the wrong side of the street for street cleaning that I emerged from my bed at 3AM to move it rather then wait for my alarm at 7:50AM giving me 10 minute buffer before tickets are given out.

I have this work assignment that's floating above my head: describe a time where you deviated from the company culture.  I stare blankly at this question on my self review.  Why is this so hard to answer?

2014 welcomed me with an eye infection.  2015 welcomed me with a flu and very first world problems like waiting in line for an hour for my iPhone 6.  Which by the way isn't that much better than the iPhone 4s that I've had and taken care for 2 years.

So what am I looking forward to in 2015?
- My cousin's wedding in Hawaii
- Possibly going to Vietnam in June while Huan is there
- Maybe going to Greece because Jimmy wants to go so badly

...and that's it.  What a simple life I have as a gay Asian with little to aspire to because I'm just that happy with everything I have in my life.

Oh!  I also achieved the Yelp! Gold badge this year.  God, the good news complacency keeps coming.  How about this one: the IRS lost a document that will probably cost me a couple thousands of dollars.  yeah.


Tuesday, December 30, 2014

2014 Ignia Christmas Party

Cards in Foothill Park behind my parent's house

Hello very neglected blog.  I hate how writing has fallen so far down my priority list, but it comes with the sad reality of just being busier in life.  I picked up a second gig helping a friend out with his app which takes up a lot of my free time.  Work, try new places to eat, gig... there is little room for writing anymore.

But I happy that I have a few minutes to spare while I wait for 24 gigs of photos and videos to transfer onto my external and traffic to die down.  What should this entry be about?  The 12th Annual Ignia party of course!!

The Portland girls asked to get some authentic Vietnamese food so we gave my mom a break this year and headed to Pho Ha per Sandy's suggestions.  I usually get gifts for everyone from that year's travel, but I didn't have time.  Instead I decided to buy everyone dinner.  Everyone gave me a big thank you except Sandy.  She responded, "can I have a box sir?"  Which made me burst out into laughter.  I gave her a giant hug.

I pulled out lots of alcohol, but the majority of us just enjoyed some Bailey's hot chocolate.

I control the Secret Santa and rigged it so that you did not get the person you had up to 4 years ago!  We agreed that next year will authentically be random.  My secret santa was Alysia, she made it easy with a wish list of obscure things like measuring cups that include 3/4 and 2/3 cups.  Are you kidding me?  A sleep mask that I actually own and Rooibos tea.  I went to 3 stores to get her that!

Our traditional group photo.  We sat in the same spot as last year.  I wish we kept the order all the years, but it's okay.  My dad suggestion us make monster faces... lol.  Close enough

There's a gap in the group photo because Caitlin was missing.  She was celebrating in Idaho that year.  Nothing that FaceTime on the iPhone 6+ can't fix!  check out that group photo.  I'm printing this one for our families.

We're a silly group of people who enjoy playing board games.  This year we played the following:

Concept - Diana's new pretentious board game
Things - Where you write and guess who wrote what
21 - A drinking game where you assign a rule to each number

Next year we might mix it up by bringing plus ones.  Or maybe we should spare our significant others the awkwardness that is our forever in high school energy.

Oh and Diana and Myself finally won a game of SPADE!  YES!

Friday, October 31, 2014

Are You Afraid of the Dark?

321 is an old Victorian house built in 1890.  It's a perfect setting for a Halloween party, but we never made the effort because we do Christmas.  This year we took advantage of the 5 blacklights that we had from Asian Glow to do an Asian Glow part II, but this time... spooky!

The spider webs glowed well under the black light.  I covered the kitchen ceiling with trash bags and made an intricate web.

We used neon yarn to make another spider web for the living room.  We cut out neon bats for wall and found dollar store glow things to put up.  I originally bought from Amazon, but the choices at the Dollar stores is amazing.  Never again!  Scotch tape also glows so I used that to line chairs so people could see where to sit.  A lot of work!

I was quite proud of the hallway.  It felt like a haunted ride to walk through.

I made it easy for people.  No halloween costume?  Just wear white and you'll glow!

But people still got creative.  That's a homemade Chipotle steak burrito.  It's medium rare!!

These unicorns were fun!

I handed out glow in the dark glasses.  Jimmy's pecs are pressing against his neon suspenders Oh my!

I reused the tree branch i dragged from downtown for our Chinese New Years party and made it spooky.

The photobooth was simple, but complex.  A camp fire!  With real wood and fabric undulating on top of a fan.  Pure brilliance.  Watch out for those spooky eyes.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

L'Invitation Au Voyage - Happy Birthday Jimmy!

I made reservations for Jimmy's birthday at Travel Town in Griffith Park.  It was $75 with $25 security deposit.  It was worth getting a designated table.  "What's the name of the birthday boy?"  They asked.  I guess the old train yard is reserved for birthday of younger children.

It was a sunny day and it was a great photo opportunity!

I got him two pies from Pie Hole!  I try to be unique with the birthday "cakes" since Jimmy hates cake.

We got all of our friends on the kiddie train that went around the park.  It was pretty fun!  I made a video:

We also take each other out to restauraunts that we've been meaning to try.  I surprised him by taking him to Night + Market Song and giving him Sex in the City box set.